Teenagerhood is tough, not only on parents. Teens face numerous new and frustrating challenges on a daily basis, including but not limited to the following:
- Body changes / Body image
- Social status and related issues
- Increased school workload and pressure
- Worries about the future
- Complicated issues facing teens, such as sex, drugs and friends possibly involved in illegal mischief
- Overload of options and decisions to be made
With all of this going on through a long school day, it’s easy to understand the need for a midday pick-me up of, “Remember me? I’m on your side.”
Since we’re talking about teenagers after all, leaving the mushy side out of things is an absolute must. You can show love, concern and support without being, heaven forbid, an embarrassing parent. Read through the suggested examples below to get a feel of what might be appropriate.
- “Only 14 days left until the _______ concert!”
- “I hope you’re having a great day – talk to you later.”
- “Family dinner out today, see you there.”
- “Your favorite muffins are on the table. Enjoy your snack later.”
- “Keep doing your best. I’m so proud of you!”
Got it? I’m here, I’m thinking of you, you mean the world to me and I’ve got your back. Because a teen should never feel he or she is facing the world alone.
In can be tough for parents to express such positive vibes–the relationship between parent and child is so intense that it’s hard to step out of habits. I’m not a parent, but as a high school teacher and coach who has worked with kids from 9th to12th grade, I can confirm that it’s can be tough for teachers to stay positive as well! But it’s also so clearly true that little things go an impressively long way with kids, even if they don’t immediately show gratitude. Not only have I had that impact, I’ve also seen a kid come to school as though a burden was lifted just because they had a Starbucks with dad before first period, or super relieved that they completed their homework with a little help from mom. The material and the tests of high school–all that’s pretty do-able. What’s hard is growing up, and though it never will be easy, teachers and parents can have a big positive impact with little gestures of support. Thanks for the post!